It took me a long time to learn that when people went on about not trusting others, and warned me that you couldn’t trust anyone, it was actually they who were the problem.
This revelation was like someone putting on all the lights after years in the dark, and it gave me a personal power I didn’t think existed!
True Trust – True Power
It is a fact of life, as we know, that some people can’t be trusted. It’s sad to have to acknowledge that, but in a world full of humans it just has to be faced.
When you find yourself in a situation with a person you’re unsure about, give them three chances to prove you wrong, and if they can’t be trusted, move on. It’s that simple.
You have the power to move on, and if you don’t it is you that is letting you down, not them. No one else can react to your feelings, emotions, and standards. If you decide that you don’t like being made unhappy, uncomfortable, or to feel a fool because you’re allowing someone to play games with you, the only person who can take control of the situation from your viewpoint is you.
This doesn’t mean that you have to start a fight, tell them what you think, or invite any form of confrontation. Possibly you will feel, depending on the circumstances, that a conversation is required. Just make sure that you can handle the fall out. If, however, the situation may be a tricky one, such as a boss at work you realise you can’t trust, then it may be best to move quietly on and say nothing. The important thing is to:
Be your own best friend and take action!
My own best friend?
Yes, you have to treat yourself the way your best friend treats you and you them (if the answer to that is badly then review the relationship).
The only person who can look after you is you. You need to be your own best friend, set standards as to how you wish to be treated, and maintain those standards no matter what. It isn’t selfish, you will probably set standards that you as a person wish to deliver to others, and there is nothing wrong with delivering the best you can, and expecting the same in return.
If you take notice when people are saying ‘you can’t trust anyone’ you will more than likely find that the speaker takes a lot of bad treatment from others, and does nothing to move away into more positive relationships. Bless them, it’s a very hard place to be in but you don’t need to be in that place with them, and who knows, you moving forwards might inspire them.
In some ways living your best life is the most wonderful gift for your friends and family, particularly children. In the case of offspring, they will take their attitude to life from you, so living your best life is a lifelong gift to them.
If you want to trust yourself, treat yourself well.
Tomorrow – Be Yourself!